Day 15 - Forgiveness - Resentment

 Forgiveness                  (Goal Number:         )           Resentment

patience, pardon, magnanimous, generous                                          discontent, bitterness, anger, fury, acrimony

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

Your heart is full of forgiveness and mercy. You realize you need to forgive, not only for the other person or situation, but also to set yourself free from carrying the burden and reliving it over and over. You understand that pardoning does not necessarily mean you give your stamp of approval on what was done, but that you do not fully know the heart of theother person or persons. You cannot set yourself up as judge and jury. You also realize you do not have to have mean-spirited people in your life; you can walk away. You come to life with a generous attitude and are considered a kind and magnanimous person. You know that all great religions teach forgiveness as a virtue, for lack of it inhibits spiritual growth and understanding.And most of all, you forgive yourself,

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are mostly a forgiving person. However, there are those whom you consider to be unforgivable. You have a tinge of resentment when you see people moving on in their lives, but you feel they don’t deserve to be off the hook. You hold onto some painful memories and refuse to forgive and let go of some things. You have not fully forgiven yourself. You may have some lack of forgiveness for God as well.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Your ooze resentment. You are not at peace, but experience a great deal of discontent. You are a bitter person a lot of the time. You have flurries of anger and fury over this or that person or situation. You torture yourself with telling the story of how you have been hurt, over and over and over again – to yourself and to anyone who will listen. You refuse to let go and set yourself free. Your negativity is so pervasive that you apply it to even neutral situations. Sometimes, everyone and everything upset you. You are unhappy, and blame everyone else. No one seems to meet your standards, including yourself. It likely has not even occurred to you that you need to forgive yourself. Resentment is your way of life.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world healed by forgiveness. Then imagine a world that runs completely on resentment and lack of forgiveness. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of forgiveness, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

•        I forgive myself. I bless myself. I release myself. I love myself.

•        I am all right, right now.

•        I learn from the past and let it go.

•        Is the pain I feel worth the price I have to pay to keep it in place?

•        I am a loving, forgiving, caring person.

•        I forgive as many times as it takes until the memory has lost its sting and is neutralized.

•        Forgiveness is the key I have been looking for.

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REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Take a deep breath and let go. I breathe in forgiveness and breathe out resentment.

·       Complete any unfinished business and make amends whenever possible.

·       Watch your thoughts and words, catching any resentful feelings, and immediately turn that around, refusing to live a negative life.

·       Become alert to any opportunities to express kindness and generosity, and do so.

·       Write a note of forgiveness to someone you need to forgive.

· Spend time thinking about how you are responsible for your own life, and how excuses don’t give you what you want and need. Recognize that this is true, not based on what others are doing or saying. Work on becoming inner-directed.

·       Reach out to others you may have hurt and ask for forgiveness.

·       Spend time forgiving yourself for your failings, real or imagined.

·       Forgive God. You are granted freewill. Own your choices, both positive and negative.

Day 14 - Family - Outsider

 Family                  (Goal Number:         )               Outsider

kindred, tribespeople, related,  lineage, ancestry, community                  alien, stranger, foreigner, intruder, misfit,

                                                                                                                 blacksheep, other

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You treasure youir family, striving at all times to smooth over misunderstandings and maintain  caring and loving relationships. You also have a sense of the faily of humankind. You have a sense of being kindred souls with others. Our ancestry is so intermingled, that even at the physical level, you sense we are at least distant cousins. You try to encourage a sense of community in all groups of which you are a part. You find it difficult to understand violence and war, knowing how we are one family who share this earth. In so many ways, what hurts one, hurts all.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

You have lukewarm relationships with most of your family members, and perhaps some very cold and critical relationships with others. This attitude carries over to your attitudes toward humankind in general. You are very selective about who you let in to your inner circle. You do not have a universal outlook toward others. Some are okay, others to be avoided. And some are to be eliminated.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

For you, almost everybody is an outsider. Strangers are immediately suspect. You define foreigners as anyone not in “your” group. They are outsiders to you in all ways, and you apply negative labels to them.You do not see individuals; you see groups and label everyone in the group as the same, usually with a long list of negative descriptors. They are other, and so fair game. You are considered  a prejudiced person, and you are proud of it.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world where everyone is treated as family, loved, encouraged, and accepted. Then imagine a world where everyone is treated as an outsider, a suspicious outsider. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of family, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

•        We are one people, one human family.

•        Each person is unique and also sacred, that is, a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

•        I am getting better at looking beyond the appearance and seeing the inner truth.

•        I see the need for caring behind the pain in the eyes of others.

•        I strive to encourage a sense of community and caring,

•        I welcome new people into my life.

•        We all have something to contribute.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

Ø  Read up on the genealogy that tells us we all descend from one biological female about 200,00 years ago in Africa, and one biological male about 75,000 years ago in the Middle East - all other strands of DNA having died out.

Ø  Interview some of your family members about the stories of their lives with a heart to understand. Perhaps even write some short stories about them, compile them into a booklet, and give it as a gift to other family members.

Ø  Make a point of getting to know some people outside of your usual circle.

Ø  Do something helpful in your town for people you would otherwise never meet, such as volunteer at a food bank, homeless shelter, or a thrift store.

Ø  If you are particularly negative about a certain group, read up on their culture and history.

Day 13 - Second Day of Reflection

Take this time to consider the six value sets of this week Take note of the one that calls to you most, and the one you feel less drawn to or even upsets you.

What about them stirs your iner respones? What do you need to learn from these in particular? 

Spend some time re-reading these two and contemplating them.

Perhaps the Holy Spirit in you is calling you to open to something new and expanding.  Warm to this possibility.

No matter how far you've come, remember God is Infinite, and we can never know all there is. We can continue on the path, letting go of what was, embracing what can be, and walk on toward and with that Infinite One, always striving to be the best version of ourselves. It matters.

Day 12 - Faith - Fear

 Faith                         (Goal Number:         )            Fear

trust, reliance, conviction, expectation, optimism, hope                              anxiety, concern, dread, doubt, agitation, worry,                                                                                                                                                             nervousness

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are a faith-filled and trusting person, You have faith in God, yourself, and in others. Your trust is constant unless someone shows themselves consistently to be untrustworthy. You yourself are completely trustworthy. Others can rely on you. You have deep convictions to which you are true. You expect good things, and agree with Paul’s thought that all things work together for good for those who trust God and live according to his purpose. You are known as an optimistic person, even in dark times, for you have faith it will work out.  You walk with hope. You are certain great things can happen, and you are exited about being part of it.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You have faith, but it is not rock solid. You waver from time to time. You are a bit suspicious of certain people or ideas, without having reasons to do so. You think things might work out, or at least some things will. You waver between being optimistic and pessimistic. You expect things might be okay, but you don’t expect great things. Your life is a little wobbly. 

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Your faith is in fear. You are afraid of many things. You have faith that things will not work out. You jmay even expect catastrophe in various areas. You fear whatever is alien to you or your mindset. You fear others will intrude in your life, so you prefer to keep a distance between you and others. Sometimes you experience dread and doubt about things. You tend to get agitated and are nervous. You find yourself worrying, usually needlessly. You have very little hope for things to get better. Your life is grim, and often you sink into hopelessness.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Imagine a world where people have positive faith. Great things are happening. The air is electric with hope. Then imagine a world ruled by fear, where people have faith in dreadful things about to happen and so have no hope.

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of faith, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

•        Positive Faith guides my life.

•        I am filled with hope.

•        I expect great things.

•        I am known as an optimistic person.

•        I am confident that I will be guided to do great and interesting things.

•        I know, as I have faith that there are solutions for all problems. I am open to solutions.

•        Today is overflowing with promise.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

•        Spend some time contemplating our planet, its vast orbit, and the 584 million miles we all travel each year in that orbit. Realize what faith you have that all will be well.

•        Think of something where fear guides you. Investigate it, Google it, read up on it. Are there a variety of opinions and understandings about it? Is it really necessary to fear it? Is it time to change your mind?

•        Read stories by or about people of great faith.

•        Recall times in your life when you had faith, and it all worked oit.

•        Wander around nature. Do you have faith the tree will remain a tree, a flower will reain a flower, a rock will reain a rock? Or do you fear they will suddenly morph into something else? Realize how much faith you have and tell fear to take a hike.

•        Look in yourself. Weed out any habit, any belief, anything that keeps you trapped in fear. Fill the holes with faith in God, faith in the spark of God in you, faith in healing and wholeness.

• Remind yourself that there are answers and solutions for all problems. Fear only shuts down the mind, so we can’t find them, or even give up looking.

Decide, keep deciding until it sticks, that positive faith is my path, my way to be.

Day 11 - Discipline -- Pandemonium

  Discipline         (Goal Number:         )                           Pandemonium            

self-control, self-command,  aplomb, practice, apprenticeship                       out of control, disorder, confusion, muddle, slipshod

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

In order to achieve any goal in life, we have to discipline ourselves. As a disciplined person, you have self-control, which empowers you to take charge of your own life.You are under your own command. Of course, you take others into consideration, but you do not give them power over you, blame them, or act as if they are at fault in difficult situations. You are poised and comfortable in your own skin, You practice what you need to improve because you want to be the best you can be. You are willing to apprentice yourself to someone who can teach you what you want and need to learn.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Living half asleep to discipline leads you into choppy waters pf life. Sometimes you need others to focus and discipline you, for you have not developed the habit of self-discipline. You may find your lack of self-control gets you into arguments or leads to poor decisions.  You are aware you need practice in one or more areas, but you are sporadic in that practice. You do not consistently seek out mentors who can teach you what you need to know.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Because you have not cultivated self-control and discipline, you likely find much of your life out of control. You live with disorder, from lack of organization of possessions to the many messes you created in most areas of your life. This leads to confusion for yourself and others. You cannot be counted on to keep your word because you have so much chaos, plus what you do is not done well, it is slipshod. You tend to blame others, and you give excuses that increasingly sound farfetched.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be? Consider how a world with pandemonium as the norm would be.  Decide today to shift to self-control and self- discipline.

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of discipline, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·        Self-control is a new skill I am ready to learn.

·        I  will stick with it until I succeed, for I know self-control is empowering.

    I am learning to focus my energies.

·        I choose to be a person who is in charge of myself.

·        I become more and more aware of where I am undisciplined, and I begin to correct myself.

·        I am ready to stop avoiding what needs to be done.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

• •        Look around your home. What clutter do you see? Each day clean up some of it and organize your space neatly. Everything has its place, so it is easy to find and use whatever you need when you are organized. Remember, in the long run it is a time saver.
• •        Look over your work. What areas do you need to organize, complete, or end? Start doing what needs to be done.
• •        Honestly survey your life, and see where you need more skills or knowledge. Explore where you can get that.
• •        Spend time each day practicing for improvement.

•             If you catch yourself blaming someone else for your mess, stop, apologize and take responsibility. It's your life, own it,

 

Day 10 - Creativity - Imitation

 Creativity         (Goal Number:         )                         Imitation

.inspiration, innovation, originality, authenticity, freshness                              impostor, drivel, inanity, mimicry, copy, repeat

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

Living as a fully creative person, you are filled with inspiration and are an inspiration to others. You see possibilities for innovation in many ways and areas, not just in your main area of expertise. Originality calls to you, for you are not satisfied with how it has always been. It is important to you to be authentically you, even though it may ruffle some feathers or even cause some upset. You are drawn to authentic and creative people. You look with fresh eyes, seeing new and better, more interesting ways to do or be.

PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENJUINE VALUE:

You are sometimes hesitant to put forth your creative ideas. You do not fully embrace the creativity within you.You are somewhat timid about inspirations that come to you, carefully selecting with whom to share. You see ways to innovate some things, but ignore many possibilities. Occasionally, you dare to do or say something original, but you are not confident about it. You hide parts of yourself, feeling not always safe to be fully who you are. Life can feel stale at times.           

LIVING IN  THE IMPOSTOR  VALUE:

You  feel like an imitation, an impostor yourself. Your conversations are shallow, and tend to be about other people or simply repeats of soundbites.  Your words could be called inane or simply drivel. Your ideas and words are copies of others’ ideas you may have heard on the media or from your favorite politician or celebrity.You repeat the thoughts of others without examining them, comparing them, or considering anything new.You rarely, if ever, attempt something new and different.You are out of touch with your authentic self. Your life tends to be one note and boring.

DECISION 

Life without creativity is less than a full life. We are in the image and likeness of our Creator, so we have an inner need to express creatively; it is part of our nature. If everyone suppressed their creativity, there would be no great music, no beautiful art, no scientific breakthroughs.To the extreme lack of creativity, we would be still be in the Stone Age. Your creativity can bring joy to your life, and to others. Withholding creativity holds us all back. Risk being all you can be.

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

What to do:

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

* To shift in the direction of creative ideas and  experiences, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

 *I give myself permission to begin to be more and more creative.

* I don’t have to be perfect. I simply have to begin where I am.*                      

* I welcome inspiration.

* I am allowing myself to be more and more authentic.

* I see each new day, each new hour, filled with freshness, for it has never been lived before.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

*Each day for a week do one creative thing. Doodle, sketch, make up a song or poem, put on music and dance freestyle around your home, write about an imaginary situation far in the past or far in the future.

*Sit outside and watch the sunset every day for several days. Notice how varied they are, and yet are all beautiful.

*Go to a museum and celebrate the great variety of human creativity. Don’t judge it, just rejoice that humans have thought all this up and made it.

*Start a journal noting creativity you see or hear. Notice when someone is just reciting talking points or unexamined ideas. Take note of authenticity or lack of it.

* Play with ideas. What if…..? What’s another way to look at…..?

*Read some biographies of creative people.

*Dare to create something from inspiration.

*Risk being ajuthentic, being you as a unique, one of a kind person. You are no longer a pale

 imitation.