Only when freed from hate and love does it [the Way] reveal itself fully and without disguise...To set up what you like against what you dislike— this is the disease of the mind. .. Be serene in the oneness of things, And dualism vanishes of itself. --- de Caussade
In many traditions, the ultimate goal is the realization of Oneness. One of the practices then is to eliminate duality in our thinking. ~That means nomore"Us"vs"Them"mentality. We do not draw a line --- on this side of the line I love, but on the other side I hate.
In other words , division and hatred have to go. It is essential we realize that all is sacred, the divine is in each and every thing, each and everyone, even though wre may not be able to see it. What to do?
St. Paul gave us a clue in the gifts of the spirit. The last one he listed is is self-control. I think that is true but little considered.We have to get control of ourselves, our thinking, our minds, and our lives, so that we can let go and welcome Spirit without resistance. It is a great paradox, relaxing and letting go lead to serenity, and serenity leads to being able to hear the guidance that's coming to us.
I have come to realize every moment of my life is an opportunity to grow, to see differently, to expand, to move closer to God. Everyone and everything is my teacher. When I relax into that knowing and stop resisting my life, then amazing things begin to unfold. As de Caussade said, "Be serene in the oneness of things, And dualism vanishes of itself. "
I would add - actually have faith/trust in the More/God/Higher Power. Life here is a temporary gift. None of us stay here forever. We are to go beyond appearances, develop spiritually, and prepare our souls for the next thing. Let us not waste our precious time.