Day 39 - Self-Respect - Self-Hate

 Self-respect      (Goal Number:         )                    Self-hate

trust of self, personal identity, connection, self esteem, dignity             deprecation, disconnection, detached, deflating, shame

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You live from a place of self-respect. Some say this is higher than self-esteem, which can easily morph to egotistic thinking, but it does have a healthy kind of self-esteem. Self-respect comes from living up to your own inner values, being congruent and consistent and true to yourself. You do not sacrifice who you are. You trust yourself and are clear on your personal identity. You walk life with dignity.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You have some self-respect, but it can be shaky at times. You have been known to sacrifice your values to gain favor or advantage from others. You are not always consistent. You trust yourself most of the time, but you sometimes have inner doubts.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Your self-respect is minimal. You speak disparagingly about yourself, sometimes just to get a laugh. You are disconnected from your higher self, and so are detached from possibilities. You often hate yourself and wish you could hide, or are angry and act out your self-hate on others. If you are not yet dead to shame, you experience shame about who you are and what you have done.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of self-respect, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·     I have not been perfect, and I now release my past and turn to the future.

·     I choose to do and say things that represent my respect for myself and others.

·     I walk my life with dignity.

·     I am getting acquainted with my inner values and begin to live them the best I can.

·     I feel good about myself.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Stop every negative thought about yourself immediately, and turn it around. Encourage yourself with your self-talk.

·       Practice walking and talking with dignity.

·       Think of a time when you did not behave as a person who has self-respect. Analyze what happened. Recall what you were thinking and doing. What better choices could you make in the future?

·       Think about what it would mean if you fully respected yourself, your values, and your way of life. Ask yourself how you can live like this. Make an action plan.

Remember Self-Respect

Day 38 -Security - Calamity

 Security            (Goal Number:         )      Calamity

trustworthiness, safety, reliable, surety,  assurance , orotection                     humiliation, hardship, ruination, danger, uncertain

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE:  

As a secure person, you feel safe and consider those around you to be trustworthy. Your life feels comfortable. You are secure in yourself, comfortable in your own skin. You are safe to be around, and others feel secure in your presence. You feel protected.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

You are not totally convinced that all is secure. There are some nagging feelings of being unsafe. You are not fully secure in yourself, and you have numerous self-doubts.  Sometimes peope feel uneasy around you, but they usually do not know why.   

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Your sense of security is gone. You have faced humiliation, not always of your own making. You may have fallen into someone else’s problem, or you may have been the prime mover of the disaster. Because of this and other disastrous ecents, you feel in danger cand uncertain what to do. You have lost cconfidence in yourself.You often misjudge others and trust the wrong person, because you do not trust yourself.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of security, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·     I am more and more secure in myself.

·     I am able to discern clearly and make decisions that are reliable and safe.

·     I am building a secure life.

·     I am trustworthy and surround myself with trustworthy people.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·     Think through any disasters in your life. Look for patterns. Note them and be on alert for those same patterns, if they come up again. Do not complete them, for you know where those patterns lead.

·     List what you think ypu need in order to feel secure. Ponder the list. Is this a true list? Make edits. Be honest with yourself, do you think you need something outside of yourself to be secure? Why?

·     Ask yourself, when did you cease feeling secure in your own skin? What precipitated the seeds of your self-doubt? Do some visualizations and affirmations to heal this. Talk to a trusted person and get help diffusing your self-doubt.

·     Start/continue saving money, a portion of all that comes in. Cut down on unnecessary expenditures.Pay off credit cards steadily until they are paid off. Save at least enough money to cover 3 months of expenses.

RememberSecurity

Day 37 - Responsibility - Evasion

 Responsibility              (Goal Number:         ) Evasion

respond appropriately, stand, sponsor                                    neglect, escape, indolence, ignore, hide from

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Responsibility means you have the ability and willingness to respond appropriately to yourself and others. You are rooted in a steadiness that stands, rather than runs, regarding your promises and obligations. You are what is called a stand-up person. You are reliable ad trusted. You take accountability for your decisions and actions. You consider an honorable person to be a responsible person, and you are definitely honorable.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are responsible when it suits you. You can be reliable when it fits into your agenda and beliefs. You sometimes make empty promises. You usually are accountable for your decisions and actions, but you sometimes try to shift the blame or ignore your decisions and their results.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE: 

You are not reliable. You neglect or evade your responsibilities and try to escape from doing them. You can be quite lazy. You tend to ignore inconvenient duties and obligations. You hide from your responsibilities, even hiding from yourself. If you get caught avoiding your obligations, your first response is to blame others or to deny you knew about the duties. You are considered irresponsible and not trustworthy.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

 What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of responsibility, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·     I am becoming a more and more responsible person.

·     I stand up and am accountable for my decisions and actions.

·     I like being thought of as a reliable person.

·     I am learning to respond appropriately.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·     Think of the last time you neglected some duty. What were you telling yourself? What did you tell others? Imagine others were doing this to you. How would you feel? Use honest self-talk to coach yourself.

·     Responding appropriately means knowing in each situation, what would be the best response. Imagine various situations. Imagine appropriate ways to respond. Practice the best responses in your imagination until they become natural.

·       Survey any areas where you have not been reliable. What can you do now be responsible in those areas? What do you need to clean up from past lack of appropriate responses?

·       Create a strategy to keep track of your responsibilities – say make lists and cross them off when completed; put reminder alerts in your phone; put a list on your refrigerator door or bathroom mirror.

·       If you shirk a duty, do NOT blame or ignore. Admit it and make it right..

Remember Responsibility

Day 36 - Quality - Common

Quality             (Goal Number:         )             Common

excellence, first class, valuable                                               low, base, vile, shabby below par

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Quality in all things is important to you. You require excellence in all you do and expect it from others around you. You want quality relationships, quality work, quality in items you purchase. You like first class all the way. You value life and all that you choose be in your life, so you want it to be the best , Your definition of quality can include the necessity of beauty and function, and both need to be excellent to get your stamp of approval. You could be described as classy.                                          

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You like nice things, but just okay is often your motto. You do an okay job, and are an okay friend and spouse. You shine sometimes, but just getting by is more your style.Your tastes are often middle of the road.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:  

You are definitely not classy. Your choices are classified as low class. Your surroundings are likely to be shabbv. Your behavior is ofren less than stellar, even vile, Whatever you do, you do the bare minimum. Excellence and high quality are not in your way of life.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of quality, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I am a person of quality,

·       I live a high quality life.

·       I surround myself with as high quality things and peole as I can.

·       I appreciate excellence.

·       I aim everyday to be the best person I can be.

·       My life is a valuable gift, and I give it high quality attention.

·       The life of everyone is a valuable gift, and I give others my highest quality attention.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Assess your life. Where do you show up as less than excellent? What can you do about it? What will you actually do about it?

·       Think about your body. How can you help it be more healthful, stronger, more attractive? Do it.

·       Think about your mental and emotional life? How can you learn to think more clearly and deeply? How can you be calmer and more in charge of your emotions? Research these and take action.

·       What can you do to make your surroundings more excellent?

·       What do you need to change in order to be a first class spouse, parent, friend, and employee/employer? Go about changing whatever you need to so that you can live a high quality life.

Remember Quality

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Quality in all things isimportant to you. You require excellence in all you do and expect it from others around you. You want quality relationships, quality work, quality in items you purchase. You like first class all the way. You value life and all that you choose be in your life, so you want it to be the best , Your definition of quality can include the necessity of beauty and function, and both need to be excellent to get your stamp of approval. You could be described as classy.                                          

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You like nice things, but just okay is often your motto. You do an okay job, and are an okay friend and spouse. You shine sometimes, but just getting by is more your style.Your tastes are often middle of the road.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:  low, base, vile, shabby below par

You are definitely not classy. Your choices are classified as low class. Your surroundings are likely to be shabbv. Your behavior is ofren less than stellar, even vile, Whatever you do, you do the bare minimum. Excellence and high quality are not in your way of life.

 

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

 

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

 

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of quality, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I am a person of quality,

·       I live a highquality life.

·       I surround myself with as high quality things and peole as I can.

·       I appreciate excellence.

·       I aim everyday to be the best person I can be.

·       My life is a valuable gift, and I give it high quality attention.

·       The life of everyone is a valuable gift, and I give others my highest quality attention.

 

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Assess your life. Where do you show up as less than excellent? What can you do about it? What will you actually do about it?

·       Think about your body. How can you help it be more healthful, stronger, more attractive? Do it.

·       Think about your mental and emotional life? How can you learn to think more clearly and deeply? How can you be calmer and more in charge of your emotions? Research these and take action.

·       What can you do to make your surroundings more excellent?

·       What do you need to change in order to be a first class spouse, parent, friend, and employee/employer? Go about changing whatever you need to so that you can live a high quality life.

Remember Quality 

Day 35 - Prosperity - Adversity

 Prosperity        (Goal Number:         )                 Adversity

well-being, successful, winner,  triumph, good fortune, affluence                hardship, failure, hard fortune, unsuccessful, loser, tragic

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are a prosperous person in most areas of your life. You experience a sense of well-being that extends to your success in so many areas. You are a winner. You have had numerous moments of triumph and good fortune, making you affluent. Your success is not limited to material things, for it extends into relationships, psychological life and spiritual life. You are pleased with how your life is unfolding, and, at the same time, you have continuing and expanding goals for the future.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Your life has a mixed bag of prosperity. You are moderately prosperous, but you do not consider yourself triumphant and affluent. You are moving in that direction, and you have high hopes.  You have a mild sense of well being. You are comfortable, but not totally successful.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You experience quite a lot of hardship in your life. You often feel that you have failed in so many areas. Your hard fortune and adversity may have made you bitter. It seems that whatever you put your hand to is doomed to be unsuccessful. People have called you a loser. Your life may even be tragic. You feel discouraged.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of property, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I give myself permission to prosper.

·       I declare that I have a profound sense of well-being.

·       I am inspired to be successful,

·       I let go of any resistance in me to succeeding.

·       Body, mind, and spirit, I am thriving.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·     Be aware of your self-talk. Refuse to say to yourself any discouraging words. Practice being your own success coach.

·     Read some older classic books on success, such as by Norman Vincent Peale, Napoleon Hill, and Joseph Murphy. They laid a powerful foundation.

·     Set goals for body, mind, and spirit. Be accountable to yourself to keep aiming and adjusting if necessary. Start with small goals, and as you achieve them, make bigger goals. If you don’t have a target, how will you know how to aim? How will you know when you get there, if you don’t know where is?

·     Celebrate the successes of friends, family, and even strangers. Get in the success frame of mind.

Remember Prosperity