Day 37 - Responsibility - Evasion

 Responsibility              (Goal Number:         ) Evasion

respond appropriately, stand, sponsor                                    neglect, escape, indolence, ignore, hide from

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Responsibility means you have the ability and willingness to respond appropriately to yourself and others. You are rooted in a steadiness that stands, rather than runs, regarding your promises and obligations. You are what is called a stand-up person. You are reliable ad trusted. You take accountability for your decisions and actions. You consider an honorable person to be a responsible person, and you are definitely honorable.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are responsible when it suits you. You can be reliable when it fits into your agenda and beliefs. You sometimes make empty promises. You usually are accountable for your decisions and actions, but you sometimes try to shift the blame or ignore your decisions and their results.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE: 

You are not reliable. You neglect or evade your responsibilities and try to escape from doing them. You can be quite lazy. You tend to ignore inconvenient duties and obligations. You hide from your responsibilities, even hiding from yourself. If you get caught avoiding your obligations, your first response is to blame others or to deny you knew about the duties. You are considered irresponsible and not trustworthy.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

 What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of responsibility, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·     I am becoming a more and more responsible person.

·     I stand up and am accountable for my decisions and actions.

·     I like being thought of as a reliable person.

·     I am learning to respond appropriately.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·     Think of the last time you neglected some duty. What were you telling yourself? What did you tell others? Imagine others were doing this to you. How would you feel? Use honest self-talk to coach yourself.

·     Responding appropriately means knowing in each situation, what would be the best response. Imagine various situations. Imagine appropriate ways to respond. Practice the best responses in your imagination until they become natural.

·       Survey any areas where you have not been reliable. What can you do now be responsible in those areas? What do you need to clean up from past lack of appropriate responses?

·       Create a strategy to keep track of your responsibilities – say make lists and cross them off when completed; put reminder alerts in your phone; put a list on your refrigerator door or bathroom mirror.

·       If you shirk a duty, do NOT blame or ignore. Admit it and make it right..

Remember Responsibility

Day 36 - Quality - Common

Quality             (Goal Number:         )             Common

excellence, first class, valuable                                               low, base, vile, shabby below par

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Quality in all things is important to you. You require excellence in all you do and expect it from others around you. You want quality relationships, quality work, quality in items you purchase. You like first class all the way. You value life and all that you choose be in your life, so you want it to be the best , Your definition of quality can include the necessity of beauty and function, and both need to be excellent to get your stamp of approval. You could be described as classy.                                          

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You like nice things, but just okay is often your motto. You do an okay job, and are an okay friend and spouse. You shine sometimes, but just getting by is more your style.Your tastes are often middle of the road.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:  

You are definitely not classy. Your choices are classified as low class. Your surroundings are likely to be shabbv. Your behavior is ofren less than stellar, even vile, Whatever you do, you do the bare minimum. Excellence and high quality are not in your way of life.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of quality, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I am a person of quality,

·       I live a high quality life.

·       I surround myself with as high quality things and peole as I can.

·       I appreciate excellence.

·       I aim everyday to be the best person I can be.

·       My life is a valuable gift, and I give it high quality attention.

·       The life of everyone is a valuable gift, and I give others my highest quality attention.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Assess your life. Where do you show up as less than excellent? What can you do about it? What will you actually do about it?

·       Think about your body. How can you help it be more healthful, stronger, more attractive? Do it.

·       Think about your mental and emotional life? How can you learn to think more clearly and deeply? How can you be calmer and more in charge of your emotions? Research these and take action.

·       What can you do to make your surroundings more excellent?

·       What do you need to change in order to be a first class spouse, parent, friend, and employee/employer? Go about changing whatever you need to so that you can live a high quality life.

Remember Quality

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Quality in all things isimportant to you. You require excellence in all you do and expect it from others around you. You want quality relationships, quality work, quality in items you purchase. You like first class all the way. You value life and all that you choose be in your life, so you want it to be the best , Your definition of quality can include the necessity of beauty and function, and both need to be excellent to get your stamp of approval. You could be described as classy.                                          

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You like nice things, but just okay is often your motto. You do an okay job, and are an okay friend and spouse. You shine sometimes, but just getting by is more your style.Your tastes are often middle of the road.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:  low, base, vile, shabby below par

You are definitely not classy. Your choices are classified as low class. Your surroundings are likely to be shabbv. Your behavior is ofren less than stellar, even vile, Whatever you do, you do the bare minimum. Excellence and high quality are not in your way of life.

 

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

 

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

 

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of quality, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I am a person of quality,

·       I live a highquality life.

·       I surround myself with as high quality things and peole as I can.

·       I appreciate excellence.

·       I aim everyday to be the best person I can be.

·       My life is a valuable gift, and I give it high quality attention.

·       The life of everyone is a valuable gift, and I give others my highest quality attention.

 

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Assess your life. Where do you show up as less than excellent? What can you do about it? What will you actually do about it?

·       Think about your body. How can you help it be more healthful, stronger, more attractive? Do it.

·       Think about your mental and emotional life? How can you learn to think more clearly and deeply? How can you be calmer and more in charge of your emotions? Research these and take action.

·       What can you do to make your surroundings more excellent?

·       What do you need to change in order to be a first class spouse, parent, friend, and employee/employer? Go about changing whatever you need to so that you can live a high quality life.

Remember Quality 

Day 35 - Prosperity - Adversity

 Prosperity        (Goal Number:         )                 Adversity

well-being, successful, winner,  triumph, good fortune, affluence                hardship, failure, hard fortune, unsuccessful, loser, tragic

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are a prosperous person in most areas of your life. You experience a sense of well-being that extends to your success in so many areas. You are a winner. You have had numerous moments of triumph and good fortune, making you affluent. Your success is not limited to material things, for it extends into relationships, psychological life and spiritual life. You are pleased with how your life is unfolding, and, at the same time, you have continuing and expanding goals for the future.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Your life has a mixed bag of prosperity. You are moderately prosperous, but you do not consider yourself triumphant and affluent. You are moving in that direction, and you have high hopes.  You have a mild sense of well being. You are comfortable, but not totally successful.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You experience quite a lot of hardship in your life. You often feel that you have failed in so many areas. Your hard fortune and adversity may have made you bitter. It seems that whatever you put your hand to is doomed to be unsuccessful. People have called you a loser. Your life may even be tragic. You feel discouraged.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of property, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I give myself permission to prosper.

·       I declare that I have a profound sense of well-being.

·       I am inspired to be successful,

·       I let go of any resistance in me to succeeding.

·       Body, mind, and spirit, I am thriving.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·     Be aware of your self-talk. Refuse to say to yourself any discouraging words. Practice being your own success coach.

·     Read some older classic books on success, such as by Norman Vincent Peale, Napoleon Hill, and Joseph Murphy. They laid a powerful foundation.

·     Set goals for body, mind, and spirit. Be accountable to yourself to keep aiming and adjusting if necessary. Start with small goals, and as you achieve them, make bigger goals. If you don’t have a target, how will you know how to aim? How will you know when you get there, if you don’t know where is?

·     Celebrate the successes of friends, family, and even strangers. Get in the success frame of mind.

Remember Prosperity

Day 34 - Day of Reflection Five

It's time to consider the big picture and our place in it. Join me as we think about this.

As humans, we share a great deal and have more in common than we often think. We have a common human history, full of ups and downs, wins and losses, dreams and dreams shattered, love and fear. We all have families and ancestors. We admire great art and music, great philosophers and scientists. We know of heroes and villains. We play some or all of these parts.

We share a planet, and we depend on it. Our bodies are made of stardust, carbon compounds that will return to earth when we die. The vast cosmos is circulating around us, and in some ways in us, as the ancient atoms move through our bodies and on, always in motion. In so many ways, we are one.

We have/are eternal souls. Something in us calls us to be more. All of the religions and myths speak of this. If we are paying attention at all, we know it to be so.And there is a High Power, transcendent and immanent, we call by various names, let's say "God" here. We are accountable for our lives to God. We have freewill, and we are to use it wisely and well.

In order to step up and do and be all we can, we need to have a high focus. Being clear on what values are in alignment with all of this helps us stay on course for our part in the big picture. Our little picture is part of the whole. Each of us are needed to play our parts to make this world a better place.

All 40 of the values that came to me when I originally wrote "Values Remembered" can seem daunting. How I teach this is for you to select your 7 key values, the ones tugging on your soul. These are essential for your fulfillment. Work with these 7 for awhile. Then, sort the remaining ones under the 7 as supporting teams. I originally had cards, one for each, so it was easy to sort.

A small example: One of my 7 is spirituality. Compassion for me goes on that team. It is said that without compassion one cannot said to be spiritually awake. Another is joy- as Teilhard de Chardin said, "Joy is an infallible sign of the Presence of God."

Your teams might be different. There is no right or wrong, only what helps each of us fulfill our missions here on this planet at this time, and to awaken spiritually.

When we find our way and are true to our way, our lives become different, made new, whole, exciting, part of something bigger.

If we can get a preponderance of people to find their values and be true to them, I see a world of peace and plenty for all. I was led to share all of this with you. Take it and share it, and join in lifting the people of earth. 

Daay 33 - Power - Impotence

 Power  (Goal Number:         )                                     Impotence

effectiveness, potency, vigor, competency, able, virility                          helpless incompetent, victim, powerless, ineffectual

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE

Your power emanates from within you, from a deep place. You don’t have to display grand gestures of power to be a person of power, you are simply confident. You are effective in what you do, often quietly getting things done. You have a potency about you that people feel. You have energy and vigor and are full of vitality. You are extremely competent, able to accomplish tasks and live life to the fullest. You move forward over and past obstacles, often amazing onlookers. Your power is about being the best you that you can be, and it has nothing whatsoever to do with power over others. It is power over your own life. As a result of your effectiveness, you may find yourself as someone who has others working under them, but you treat them not as less than, but as unique individuals who deserve respect.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You stumble here and there over yourself. Your power from within is still developing and not fully potent. You are variously effective, but do doubt yourself sometimes and so pull back. You have a need to call attention to your accomplishments, rather than let them speak for themselves. Your energy level is not constant. Some obstacles seem too much, and you feel you don’t have the strength and energy to get past them. You are moderately effective most of the time, sometimes very effective, and sometimes you sort of fade away.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE: 

You live a mostly impotent life, having lost touch with your inner power. Often, you feel helpless, and you see yourself as a victim of so many circumstances and people. You do not feel competent to do most things, although you may have an area where you are skilled. But you play the victim even there and sour it, You believe you are powerless. Taken to the extreme, you either give up or do some dreadful thing to prove you are powerful after all.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of power, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·  My power comes from within naturally and gently.

·  I am confident in myself.

·  I am effective in the way I approach life. I am effective in all I choose to do.

·  I am filled with vitality.

·  I am able to do helpful, kind, and even great things with my life.

·  I am a powerful person.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·  Remember a time when you felt effective and powerful and then lost it. What was going on? What led you to moderate your power? What do you need to do to allow yourself to be confident and powerful again?

·  Take something you want to be able to do skillfully and develop it. Practice it, take lessons, watch YouTube videos on it, read up on it, join a group that does that thing. For example go to Toast Masters, join a guild, find a friend to share your practice. Keep going until you feel competent, then continue as a competent person.

·  Practice good posture, Stand up and walk in a confident manner. Say to yourself as you walk, “I am a confident and powerful person.”

·  Take Aikido lessons.

· Realize real power is not about subduing others, but it is about knowing yourself and being fully you with no fear.

Remember Power

Day 32 - Pleasure - Pain

 Pleasure           (Goal Number:         )                         Pain

hhumor, enjoyment, fun, comfort, ease, happiness, joyfulness                 weariness, complaint, sorrow, discomfort, annoyance

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUES

You see, life is a journey, a teacher, an honor, and also a pleasure. You enjoy life most of the time. You are able to see the humor in many situations. You find joy in all things, not needing elaborate entertainments, but also enjoying them occasionally. Most elaborate entertainments are manufactured and made to bring in money, so you prefer more natural things. It is fun to be alive to see the sunrise, to smell a flower, to hug a loved one. You find a way to make most any space comfortable, and you are comfortable in your own skin. You are at ease with yourself and others. You are a happy person.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Most of the time you are happy or at least content. Sometimes you cannot see anything funny about what’s going on and may make yourself unhappy about it. You sometimes notice the beauty around you and enjoy it. You are not always at ease. You are a moderately happy person most of the time, but rarely are you outright joyful.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:,

You experience life as more painful than pleasurable. You have a weariness about you with little, if any joy. You have many complaints which you tell anyone who will listen, or alternatively, you keep quiet and play the martyr. There is as if a cloud of sorrow around youm as you carry the burdens of a lifetime, almost as a badge of identity. You feel stuck.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of pleasure, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·     Joy is an infallible sign of God.

·     I see so many things for which to be joyful and celebrate.

·     I look for the humor in life’s experiences.

·     I find pleasure in simple things.

·     I feel more and more at ease with myself and others.

·     I have fun every day. It is good to be alive.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

•    Develop a hobby that brings you pleasure. It might be gardening, or taking cooking lessons, or learning to ski, or whatever is fun for you, Try several. Find the one or two that actually bring you joy.

·     Make play dates with friends where you do things together that are enjoyable – maybe a picnic, a movie, a hike, or….

·     Look at your life. What makes you unhappy in it? What can you do about it besides complaining? How can you make it better?

·     Give yourself permission to be happy. Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful.

·     Listen to upbeat, positive music. Dance around the house while you do chores.

Remember Pleasure