Day 21 - Health - Unhealthfulness

Health  (Goal Number:         )                                     Unhealthfulness

robust, optimum, vitality, spark, fitness, hale, hearty                              dysfunctional, drab, toxic, unwholesome, polluted

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Robust health has long been important to you. You realize that your body is the vehicle that helps your soul to have experiences on earth. The health of body, mind, and soul make for a full and satisfying life. You wish to be at your optimum peak of health. To express the divine spark within requires vitality and a certain level of fitness. At the same time, if your body is injured or is fighting disease, the health of your mind and spirit can carry you forward. You do your best to take care of yourself,

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You may half-heartedly take care of your health. You might eat too much junk food, avoid most exercise, and over indulge here and there. You think you will always have a healthy body, mind, and soul, even if you don’t do anything to particularly support your health. You live hyour life with few constraints to your appetites.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Health is not a priority. You have a dysfunctional relationship with your health. There is an unwholesome lifestyle that you follow, and therefore, many areas of your life are unwholesome. It is as if your body, mind, and soul are ; polluted. You don’t have the interest or energy to change it.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of health, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·  I love the feeling of being healthy.

·  Vitality surges through me.

·  I find it easier and easier to make choices that support my health in body, mind, and soul.

·  I am responsible for taking care of myself.

·  I enjoy being my own coach and cheerleader as I make more and more healthy choices.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

• Take a personal inventory. What health issues do you have? What can you do about them? Make a plan.
• Consult with experts for helpful suggestions, such as physicians, physical therapists, and counselors.
• Ask healthy friends for tips they found useful.
• Create a chart – beginning status, goals, progress, what you did to support health this week. How you reward yourself for sticking to your plan, etc.
• Spend time daily visualizing how it is when you reach your goals. See yourself. and feel how it feels to have accomplished health.

Remember Health

Day 20 - Reflection Day Three

 On this day of rest, reconsider the 6 values for this week. Which one resonates with you the most and which do you resist? Consider why?

• What would need to happen for you to embrace them and incorporate them more fully in your life?
• How would your life be affected if you rejected them, saying they are not for you?
• If you have a negative reaction to one or more, is there a memory or person in your life you associate it/them with? Is there some healing there that needs to happen?
• Have the courage to keep on growing and expanding and being the best you can be.

Day 19 - Gratitude - Ingratitude

 Gratitude         (Goal Number:         )           Ingratitude

appreciation, thanks, praise, indebtedness, bless                  nonacknowledgment, denial, unthankful, curse

 

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

There is so much in life for which you are grateful. You have learned that even the hard lessons are teachers, for which you can be appreciative, at least eventually. You find yourself giving thanks for the big and small, for sunsets and family, for rainbows and God. Every day you give thanks and praise for the beauty of the earth and for the gift of life itself. You have a debt of gratitude, for you realize the bountiful blessings of all that has been freely given to you. You strive to be a blessing every moment of every day.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are frequently grateful, maybe not for everything, but for a lot of things. Some things you simply take for granted. Things that do not go your way, you are not grateful, and complain, and connive to get your way. You rarely express appreciation for all the beauty of the earth. You only try to be a blessing to a select group.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You find lttle for which to be grateful. You don’t see and therefore don’t acknowledge the many blessings filling every single day. You miss so many opportunities because you don’t see them for what they are. You deny there are blessings in your life, or speak of them only with sarcasm. Your attitude is one of cursing life and other people who you think get all of the breaks in life. In fact, you often make fun of people with thankful hearts and happy lives, secretly wishing it could be you.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of gratitude, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I look around and give thanks for what I see.

·       I spend a few minutes every morning giving thanks and praise.

·       I acknowledge others and am grateful for them being in my life.

·       I look at nature and marvel and celebrate it.

·       I look in the mirror and see a grateful face, and I give thanks for the gift of life.

·       I decide to be a blessing in every way I can, in every moment I can.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·     Write a letter to God giving thanks for everything you can think of. Reread it periodically.

·     Take a walk and give thanks for all you see and think how it all is a blessing. Give thanks for human inventions and natural things.

·     Think of ways to be a blessing to others today, do them – then do that every day.

·     Upon awaking in the morning, have your first words and thoughts be full of gratitude.

·     Shift from “Good God it’s morning” to “Good morning God.”

RememberGratitude

Day 18 - Generosity - Miserliness

 Generosity       (Goal Number:         )                         Miserliness

unselfishness, bountiful, bigness, fullness, sufficiency                              pinching, scrimping, tightwad, cheapskate, stingy, withhold

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You approach life with a genuinely generous heart. Making others a priority, you are unselfish and kind. You see the bountiful nature of life, and want to share your bounty with loved ones and also strangers. You look for ways to help. You have a big heart, and you give of yourself freely. You listen to others with a generous ear, and you care. You feel like you are sufficient in yourself, and seek to help others also to feel like they are enough. There is always a way to do good, to lift, and to share.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

Haphazardly, you share with others, but you don’t have that planned out, and it is not necessarily your main thing in life. You are not stingy, but you are very selective about your giving. You give your attention to others and their plight with reserve, being courteous, but not always responding with a big heart. You feel partially comfortable with yourself, but you do not feel fully sufficient.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Some call you miserly and nickname you “Scrouge.” You certainly pinch your pennies, giving only in small drips and if you really have to. That includes giving of your money, time, and caring. You are stingy with almost all aspects of your life. You are known as a cheapskate and a tightwad.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world where generosity was the norm. Then imagine a world where withholding and being stingy was the norm. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of generosity, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·     I let go and let God flow through me.

·     I open my eyes to the needs of others and to how I can help.

·     It feels good to be generous in all areas of my life.

·     I no longer wish to hold back, and I now open myself to life.

·     I am enough.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

•    Find a worthy local cause that speaks to you, and participate. Share your time, talent and money.

·     .Find a need, and figure out how to address it. Get some friends togher and make plans. Determine how to get help needed. Go for it.

·     Practice listening skills, listening with an open, non-judgmental attitude. Listen and don’t compose what you will say next – listen with your whole self. Listening is an amazing gift,

·     Look in the mirror at yourself. Say to yourself – I am enough. I am sufficient. I love myself.

·     Obserce generous people and learn from them.

Remember Generosity

Day - 17 - Friendship - Estrangement

 Friendship        (Goal Number:         )                         Estrangement

intimacy, trust, harmony, devotion, amicable, respect                              alienation, hostility, distrust, hard feelings, tension

 AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You have several close, long-time friends. You are comfortable to share deply with your friends. At the same time, you are friendly with almost everyone, You are a loyal and devoted friend, and encourage them to be their best and go for their dreams. You are not intimidated by their successes, and you celebrate successes together. You respect your friends and the relationships you share. Friendship is extremely important to you.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You have maybe one or two long-time friends. Your relationships mostly skate on the surface. You can take or leave getting together with others. When you do get together with others, it is pleasant and fine and usually a party or some group activity. You are not disloyal, but you are lukewarm in your commitments to others.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You feel estranged from most people, so much so that your attitude tends to alienate others. You have not kept in touch with people, so you really don’t have any long-term friends. You may have some long-term acquaintances, but they are not important in your life. You have difficulty trusting yourself and others too. There are some unresolved hard feelings between you and several people. You tend to be tense, when around others who are trying to be friendly.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a life that is enjoyed with wonderful friends that you trust and love. Then imagine a world of being a stranger to everyone, for you are basically alone.Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of friendship, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I know to have a friend, I have to be a friend.

·       I risk making connections that can lead to genuine friendships.

·       I find others that can become good friends.

·       I truly desire to be a friend and have a friend.

·       It is easier and easier for me to be friendly.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

•           Look up someone from your past and get together with them.

·       Join an organization of like-minded people, such as artists, garden enthusiasts, astronomy group, fast walkers, etc..

·       Volunteer at a charity or church.

·       Reach out to those who have hard feelings toward you, or you toward them. Focus on healing that situation.

·       Develop strong self-respect by being true to yourself. Out of that respect, develop respect for others.                      

Remember Fiendship

Day 16 - Freedom - Confinement

 Freedom           (Goal Number:         )                         Confinement

liberation, spontaneity, choice, individualism, independence                imprisonment, rigidity, restriction, isolation, restrain

  AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You experience a certain level of freedom in all areas of your life, even when going through a valley. You are not controlled by irrational demands, as you are liberated from being other directed. You direct yourself with high inner standards. You have a joyful spontaneity about you, often surprising others. You give yourself permission to make choices in harmony with your higher self. You are about as independent as you can be, yet you work well with others, as long as they do not try to manipulate or control you.

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

If you look carefully at your life, you will see that you have given up parts of your freedom. You sometimes give in to others, even if your intuition is shouting “NO”. You only occasionally feel,free enough to be spontaneous. You limit your choices to be in alignment with the group with which you associate. You are more dependent than independent.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

You are imprisoned by your fear of freedom. You need desperately to belong. You are usually rigid in your thinking nd actions, keeping them in line with those of others from whom you seek approval. This restricts your life in a multitude of ways. You often feel isolated, because deep down you know your are not being honest with yourself or others by denying what you really think, and endeavoring to fit in at whatever cost. You are trapped and confined by your own fears and choices.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world where people felt free to live and express in joy. Then imagine a world where everyone felt extremely confined, hiding their true selves. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of freedom, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

·       I am free to be me, as long as I cause no harm.

·       I have the freedom to expand my thinking and doing.

·       I look outside of the box in which I have placed myself.

·       I have many choices, and I consider them all.

·       It is important to be true to myself, even if others do not agree with me.

·       I am learning to be more and more spontaneous.

REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Make a list of all of the activities, people, groups, and points of view that confine you. Which of them are not good for you? What can you do about that?

·       Make up some exercises to practice spontaneity such as: walk up to a stranger in a store and tell them something positive about themselves (your smile made my day). Invite a friend to a movie at the last minute. Go for a walk in nature and hug a tree. In the shower make up a song.

·       Pick one idea about which you hold rigid ideas and beliefs. Read up about he opposite point of view. Watch a couple of videos of people with opposite points of view. Notice they have some good points. Maybe all is not black vs white, all vs nothing.

·       Find the little cartoon “Joshua in a Box” on the internet and watch it. What does it tell you about freedom and confinement?

Remember Freedom

Day 15 - Forgiveness - Resentment

 Forgiveness                  (Goal Number:         )           Resentment

patience, pardon, magnanimous, generous                                          discontent, bitterness, anger, fury, acrimony

AWAKE TO THE GENUINE VALUE:

Your heart is full of forgiveness and mercy. You realize you need to forgive, not only for the other person or situation, but also to set yourself free from carrying the burden and reliving it over and over. You understand that pardoning does not necessarily mean you give your stamp of approval on what was done, but that you do not fully know the heart of theother person or persons. You cannot set yourself up as judge and jury. You also realize you do not have to have mean-spirited people in your life; you can walk away. You come to life with a generous attitude and are considered a kind and magnanimous person. You know that all great religions teach forgiveness as a virtue, for lack of it inhibits spiritual growth and understanding.And most of all, you forgive yourself,

 PARTIALLY ASLEEP TO THE GENUINE VALUE: 

You are mostly a forgiving person. However, there are those whom you consider to be unforgivable. You have a tinge of resentment when you see people moving on in their lives, but you feel they don’t deserve to be off the hook. You hold onto some painful memories and refuse to forgive and let go of some things. You have not fully forgiven yourself. You may have some lack of forgiveness for God as well.

LIVING IN THE IMPOSTOR VALUE:

Your ooze resentment. You are not at peace, but experience a great deal of discontent. You are a bitter person a lot of the time. You have flurries of anger and fury over this or that person or situation. You torture yourself with telling the story of how you have been hurt, over and over and over again – to yourself and to anyone who will listen. You refuse to let go and set yourself free. Your negativity is so pervasive that you apply it to even neutral situations. Sometimes, everyone and everything upset you. You are unhappy, and blame everyone else. No one seems to meet your standards, including yourself. It likely has not even occurred to you that you need to forgive yourself. Resentment is your way of life.

Look at your life. Which is the most true for you?   ____ 1   _____ 2  _____ 3

What to do:

DECISION

Choose. Imagine a world healed by forgiveness. Then imagine a world that runs completely on resentment and lack of forgiveness. Which do you want for yourself and your world? Which way would you like life to be?

FOCUSING YOUR MIND

Going for the target you have chosen

To shift in the direction of forgiveness, select some or all of the following and copy them in order to have them with you. Live with them. Think about them. Absorb them.

•        I forgive myself. I bless myself. I release myself. I love myself.

•        I am all right, right now.

•        I learn from the past and let it go.

•        Is the pain I feel worth the price I have to pay to keep it in place?

•        I am a loving, forgiving, caring person.

•        I forgive as many times as it takes until the memory has lost its sting and is neutralized.

•        Forgiveness is the key I have been looking for.

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REINFORCING BEHAVIORS

Action steps to take to get off the log

·       Take a deep breath and let go. I breathe in forgiveness and breathe out resentment.

·       Complete any unfinished business and make amends whenever possible.

·       Watch your thoughts and words, catching any resentful feelings, and immediately turn that around, refusing to live a negative life.

·       Become alert to any opportunities to express kindness and generosity, and do so.

·       Write a note of forgiveness to someone you need to forgive.

· Spend time thinking about how you are responsible for your own life, and how excuses don’t give you what you want and need. Recognize that this is true, not based on what others are doing or saying. Work on becoming inner-directed.

·       Reach out to others you may have hurt and ask for forgiveness.

·       Spend time forgiving yourself for your failings, real or imagined.

·       Forgive God. You are granted freewill. Own your choices, both positive and negative.